Do you feel like household management is more than a full-time job?
It almost seems cruel, the amount that moms find themselves responsible for! We can cook dinner, keep an eye on the kids, remember to book an appointment, help siblings through conflict, pull out an activity, clean the kitchen, make a grocery list, argue with our partners (what?), all at the same time and not blink an eye.
I have spent years feeling like an overwhelmed mom buried in clutter, mess, weeds, toys, and stress. And then I remembered that I… ME… IIIIII am a Home Economist, and am trained in managing this stuff! I applied my education and experience to my home, and today find myself living an easier life in every way.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed by your home and family life, read on. I will share what has helped me calm the chaos. My hope is to lessen your stress at home.
As moms, we know that household work is so much more than emptying the dishwasher and folding laundry.
Here’s what it takes for moms to run a household effectively:
It’s a fact – we’ve got more stuff to do than time available. Managing our time allows us to accomplish the tasks that will make the biggest impact on our home life.
We’ve got to have a handle on our finances in order to keep our homes running.
Our relationships matter. Family management includes how we parent, communicate and work together as a family unit.
Almost ¾ of parents report that their family responsibilities are a significant source of stress. The calendar is jam-packed, we don’t have enough money for the clothes our kids want to wear, the house is a disaster, and so forth. When mom is stressed, everyone is stressed.
Our environment impacts our home life the most, wouldn’t you say? Home management involves taking care of our physical space through cleaning, organizing, decluttering, and maintaining our houses.
How to Run a Household Smoothly, Effectively, and Efficiently
The first step in learning how to run a household more smoothly is to identify what your ideal home life would look like. If you don’t know where you’re going, how do you expect to get there?
Take a piece of paper and write down your ideal day from morning to night.
Here are some questions to consider:
- What does your home look like? How does it make you feel?
- What do you feel you should be spending more time doing? Why?
- What do you want to spend more time doing? Why?
- What does your home sound like? What do you hear?
- What do you feel as you spend time in your home?
While deep in stay-at-home life with a baby and a preschooler I wrote down my ideal day so I knew what I was working towards.
How to Successfully Run a Household with Routines
You can successfully run a household by using simple routines. This is not news. For years, I despised the thought of routines because I thought it meant my life would be rigid, predictable, and scheduled.
Once I understood how many routines I had already implemented in my life, I realized it actually meant more time freedom, and less time beating myself up about when I would get things done.
A routine is simply a memorized order of actions.
Here are some of the routines you may already have implemented or may want to try implementing:
Morning routines look different for every mom. Some wake before the kids to drink their coffee hot and practice gratitude. Some set out your makeup while they’re brushing their teeth. What do you do in the same way every morning?
Are you a one-load a day kind of woman? A don’t-do-laundry-until-you-run-out-of-clothes kind of mom? We have found that one transfer per day works best for us.
Dinner, dad bathes the kids while mom cleans the kitchen, books and bedtime. A quick tidy and then, mommy and daddy together and/or alone time. That’s our ideal evening routine. What’s yours?
Systems Make a Household Work
If routines are when tasks get done, home management systems are how tasks get done. How the house gets cleaned, the laundry gets done, the lunches get made, and how the kids get time outside. I used to have zero systems and fly by the seat of my pants. Needless to say, life was chaos. Now, we have many systems and am always trying to implement more.
Our bathroom gets cleaned while the kids are in the bath. Our toys get cleaned by the kids and me before daycare ends. My husband does the laundry and I put it away.
These things are no longer pain points in our days. They are not arguments. They get done automatically, almost without a thought. Systems calm chaos!
Decluttering your Home & Minimalist Living
Decluttering your home is the most important tip. Here’s why you should work towards a more minimalist living style:
The less you have, the less you have to clean. Yes, it’s that simple.
Cluttered surfaces cause mom anxiety. Clear surfaces cause sighs of relief.
More time, space, peace and energy
By decluttering your home, you will spend less time on the things you don’t like doing and have more time and energy for the things you love.
Implement These Household Management Tips for Moms with Baby Steps
I’m not here to tell you to create a schedule and follow it minute by minute, day by day. I am here to tell you, however, that flying by the seat of your pants will cause you unnecessary stress and you KNOW moms don’t need more of that!
Focusing on literally ONE thing at a time will help you learn how to run a household smoothly, effectively, and efficiently.
For me, I am working on emptying the dishwasher every morning at snack time (thanks for the kick in the pants @ParentingJunkie!) Once that routine is solid and I don’t think about it anymore, I will work on the next one.
When you think of your home life right now, what is stressing you out the most? Is it the mess, the stress, the money, the fights? Leave a comment below so we can help each other out, and share some solidarity!
Related Reading – Here are some more resources that may help you:
- Time Management Tips for Busy Moms
- How to Declutter Your Schedule using the Konmari Method
- How to Manage your Money: Tracking your Spending